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Is the Bible reliable?  Big Question Series

Is the Bible reliable? Big Question Series

March 27, 2020

Is the Bible reliable? Outline

Big Questions Series

March 22, 2020

 

What happens to a world that slowly rejects any form of absolutes?

In those days Israel had no king; all the people did whatever seemed right in their own eyes. (Judges 21:25, NLT)

Who gets to decide what is right and wrong?

1.___________.      “That is _______________ truth.”

2.___________.        History has never been ______________to trending truth.

3.___________________________.

 

Three reasons the Bible is reliable.

  1. The Bible has __________________________ support.

It was now the fifteenth year of the reign of Tiberius, the Roman emperor. Pontius Pilate was governor over Judea; Herod Antipas was ruler over Galilee; his brother Philip was ruler over Iturea and Traconitis; Lysanias was ruler over Abilene. (Luke 3:1, NLT)

Annas and Caiaphas were the high priests. At this time a message from God came to John son of Zechariah, who was living in the wilderness. (Luke 3:2, NLT)  

Over and over again, archeology has ______________________ what was written in the Bible.

“It may be stated categorically that no archaeological discovery has ever controverted a Biblical reference. Scores of archaeological findings have been made which confirm in clear outline or in exact detail historical statements in the Bible.” Nelson Glueck

 

  1. The Bible has been _______________________________ from generation to generation.

An overwhelming number of manuscripts.

  • Gallic Wars: Julius Caesar (c. 58-50 B.C.)
  • Natural History: Pliny the Younger (c. 70-79 A.D.)
  • Iliad: Homer (c. 8th century B.C.)
  • The Bible: 40 authors (1250 B.C. to 90 A.D.)

 

  1. The Bible contains __________________________________of real events.

Gnostic gospels? Written between _____________________A.D.

(Comparative studies help date ancient writings.)

 

The resurrection was a____________________________________.

But God has protected me right up to this present time so I can testify to everyone, from the least to the greatest. I teach nothing except what the prophets and Moses said would happen—that the Messiah would suffer and be the first to rise from the dead, and in this way announce God’s light to Jews and Gentiles alike.” (Acts 26:22–23, NLT)

Suddenly, Festus shouted, “Paul, you are insane. Too much study has made you crazy!” (Acts 26:24, NLT)

But Paul replied, “I am not insane, Most Excellent Festus. What I am saying is the sober truth. And King Agrippa knows about these things. I speak boldly, for I am sure these events are all familiar to him, for they were not done in a corner! (Acts 26:25–26, NLT)

 

Ok, so maybe the Bible is reliable but is it the Word of God?

 

  1. ________________believed the Bible was authoritative for his life.
  • He quoted the Bible (e.g. Luke 4:1-13)
  • He taught using the Bible (e.g. Luke 4:16-20)
  • He referred to stories and people from the Bible as if they were real events (Noah, Jonah, Solomon, David, etc)
  1. ________________believed the Bible was authoritative for his life.

All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right. God uses it to prepare and equip his people to do every good work. (2 Timothy 3:16–17, NLT)

 

  1. _________________believed that Paul’s letters were “Scripture.”

This is what our beloved brother Paul also wrote to you with the wisdom God gave him—speaking of these things in all of his letters. Some of his comments are hard to understand, and those who are ignorant and unstable have twisted his letters to mean something quite different, just as they do with other parts of Scripture. And this will result in their destruction. (2 Peter 3:15b–16, NLT)

 

What is your source of wisdom and authority?

And the people of Berea were more open-minded than those in Thessalonica, and they listened eagerly to Paul’s message. They searched the Scriptures day after day to see if Paul and Silas were teaching the truth. (Acts 17:11–12a, NLT)

 

God’s invitation: _______________________________.

If you have an interest in questions surrounding the reliability of the Bible you might want to check out this page. There are many articles to consider. https://www.gotquestions.org/content_Bible_believing.html

 

Digging Deeper

A deeper study for individuals and families

What do you really think of the Bible? What is it to you? Is it a mysterious holy book? A book only priests or scholars can interpret? Is it a bunch of myths? Good moral teaching? Just the words of people? The Word of God?

Read Luke 4:16-17.

What does this imply about Jesus attendance at Synagogue services?

A distinguished visitor was asked to read scripture in the Synagogue. Why do you think Luke put such an emphasis on Jesus’ reading of this Scripture from Isaiah?

 

Read Luke 4:18-19.

The Scripture Jesus read, verses 18-19, is a quote from Isaiah 61:1-2. As Jesus applies this to himself, what was he anointed by the Spirit to do? Who are the four groups of people mentioned here? What do they all have in common?

 

Look carefully at each one and ponder what it means:

  1. What is the good news that is going to the poor?
  2. Who are the captives that will be released? What do you think this meant for the people of that time? What does it mean for us in our time?
  3. Who are the blind, then and now?
  4. Who are the oppressed, then and now? What would freedom mean for them?

 

Read Luke 4:20.

After the reading, Jesus applies it all to himself. What is he saying in his one-sentence sermon in verse 21?

Jesus took very seriously the authority of the Scripture of his day, and its witness to him. What did the combined witness of all of the Old Testament Scriptures mentioned in this passage say about Jesus? Who is he, and what is his mission? What in this passage was surprising or intriguing for you? Why?

In closing:
How does the emphasis on Jesus’ love for sinners, the outcast and the blind apply to you? What does it say about the priorities his people should operate by? Who are the poor, captive, blind or oppressed people on your campus or living near you? What can your group do to show Jesus’ love to them?

 

Is there absolute truth?  Big Question Series

Is there absolute truth? Big Question Series

March 27, 2020

Is there absolute truth? Outline
Big Questions
March 15, 2020

Is there absolute truth?

Truth is connected to God.
If you believe in the God who ___________________________
wouldn’t you also believe He is the _______________of all truth?

There are absolutes in the structure of the Universe.
____________________________
Earth _________________________ around the Sun
Tangible _________________________ in the observed world

Does truth matter?
In friendship…
In _____________________________…
In parenting…
In _____________________________…

Scripture Study

Then Pilate went back into his headquarters and called for Jesus to be brought to him. “Are you the king of the Jews?” he asked him.
Jesus replied, “Is this your own question, or did others tell you about me?”
“Am I a Jew?” Pilate retorted. “Your own people and their leading priests brought you to me for trial. Why? What have you done?”
Pilate said, “So you are a king?”
Jesus responded, “You say I am a king. Actually, I was born and came into the world to testify to the truth. All who love the truth recognize that what I say is true.”
“What is truth?” Pilate asked. (John 18:33-38a, NLT)

 What is truth?

There is a reality about the world that _________________________
presents to us.
1. ___________________.
2. ___________________.
3. God’s ___________________________ to save humanity.
4. The older parts of the Bible ___________________ Jesus coming, death and resurrection.
5. The newer parts of the Bible declare Jesus_______________, was _____________and _______________________just as the older parts had said.
6. This is the __________________ that the New Testament declares.

I passed on to you what was most important and what had also been passed on to me. Christ died for our sins, just as the Scriptures said. He was buried, and he was raised from the dead on the third day, just as the Scriptures said. (1 Corinthians 15:3–4, NLT)

Pilate’s Dilemma
There can be a difference between our ____________________ reality and our _______________________ reality.

There are ___________________if we don’t perceive reality correctly.

Short-term consequences. The _____________ we tell ourselves.
a. I am_____________________.

You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people. (Genesis 50:20, NLT)

b. I am________________________.

“Never! Can a mother forget her nursing child? Can she feel no love for the child she has borne? But even if that were possible, I

would not forget you! See, I have written your name on the palms of my hands. (Isaiah 49:15–16a, NLT)

c. I am ___________________________.

When I refused to confess my sin, my body wasted away, and I groaned all day long. Day and night your hand of discipline was heavy on me. My strength evaporated like water in the summer heat. Interlude Finally, I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, “I will confess my rebellion to the LORD.” And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone. (Psalm 32:3–5, NLT)

Long-term consequences.

“For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. God sent his Son into the world not to judge the world, but to save the world through him. (John 3:16–17, NLT)

“There is no judgment against anyone who believes in him. But anyone who does not believe in him has already been judged for not believing in God’s one and only Son.

And the judgment is based on this fact: God’s light came into the world, but people loved the darkness more than the light, for their actions were evil.

All who do evil hate the light and refuse to go near it for fear their sins will be exposed. But those who do what is right come to the light so others can see that they are doing what God wants.” (John 3:18–21, NLT)

Truth is a _____________________

And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32, NLT)

Why not believe ________________________________ of reality?

 

Digging Deeper
A study for individuals or small groups

Discussion
Do you have any habits that you would like to break?
Have you ever successfully broken a habit?
How did you do it?

Read John 8:31-36.

What or who is "the truth" that "will set you free" (John 8:32)?
What is the condition for being set free by "the truth"?

What qualifies people as Jesus’ disciples?

What is the flip side of what Jesus said in John 8:31?

Do you abide in - i.e., obey - Jesus' word?

Is it true that they "have never been in bondage to anyone" as they claim in John 8:33?
Is that what Jesus points out in John 8:34?

How does what He said in John 8:34 - "Everyone who commits sin is a slave of sin" - apply to us?

What habit / sin has enslaved you lately?
How do we get free from them so that we can abide in Jesus' word?

Prayer
Share and pray for each other for breakthrough in the habits that you would like to see change in your life.

Sent From The Overflow

Sent From The Overflow

March 9, 2020

Pastor Jason Frizzell

March 8, 2020

Is there a God?  Big Questions Series

Is there a God? Big Questions Series

March 2, 2020

Is there a God? - Outline
Big Questions Series
March 1, 2020

What evidence is there for God’s existence?

Are we supposed to believe in God based on “blind faith”?
Or is there more to it than that?

Here is how the Bible defines faith.

Faith shows the reality of what we hope for; it is __________
_________________of things we_______________________. (Hebrews 11:1, NLT)

Faith is trusting what _______________________________on the basis of what______________________________________.

 

What is some of the evidence for God’s existence?

1._________________________________.

Don’t believe the______________________, look at the evidence.

What caused the Universe to exist?
-- ___________________ ____________________1929

Does an explosion produce _____________and______________?
Or does it produce _______________and __________________?

The universe shows signs of being ______________________by an
________________________ __________________.

_______________
The human _______________

In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. (Genesis 1:1, NLT)

The heavens proclaim the glory of God. The skies display his craftsmanship. Day after day they continue to speak; night after night they make him known. They speak without a sound or word; their voice is never heard. (Psalm 19:1–3, NLT)

 

Signs of design:

the strength of ___________________________
the amount of dark ________________________
the _____________________ from the earth to the sun
ratio of protons to electrons_________________________have to exist _____________________
in order for life to exist

“To whom will you compare me? Who is my equal?” asks the Holy One. Look up into the heavens. Who created all the stars? He brings them out like an army, one after another, calling each by its name. Because of his great power and incomparable strength, not a single one is missing. (Isaiah 40:25–26, NLT)

 

If there is a __________________, then you are__________________.

You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. (Psalm 139:13, NLT)

2.___________________.

Humans make _________________________appeals to _______________________ standards.

-- ____________________________
-- ____________________________Concern
-- Compassionate ______________________

______________seems to be __________________into us. Why?

 

3. Collective sense of “____ _______________”

_______________________.
_______________________.
______________ of people believe God exists in some form.

 

Digging Deeper
A deeper study for individuals and small groups

For this study I would like you to check out the following website with your group. https://www.gotquestions.org/questions_God.html

here is the QR code:

Select the link:
“Does God exist?” or “Is there an argument for the existence of God?”

The group leader might want to check these two links out in advance to decide which one you want to choose for your group.

Walk through the study and discussion provided.

Read the scriptures that are provided and talk about each step of the argument presented.
1. What do you think about what is being said?
2. Is this a convincing argument for you?
3. If not, why do you choose to believe that there is a God?
4. Or what would you need to convince you that God is real?

Take time to share and discuss this topic as the Lord leads you.

Take time to pray for friends, family and neighbors whom you know are curious about God and might benefit from you taking to them.

Pray for wisdom to know how to approach these conversations.
Pray for the people, by name, who are on your heart to talk to about God.

 

How Can I Win The Big Battles?  Questions Kids Won’t Ask Series

How Can I Win The Big Battles? Questions Kids Won’t Ask Series

February 24, 2020

How can I win the big battles? - Outline
Questions Kids Won’t Ask
February 23, 2020

The battle for______________________________________.

If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for my sake and for the sake of the Good News, you will save it. (Mark 8:35, NLT)

And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul? Is anything worth more than your soul? (Mark 8:36–37, NLT)

How can I help them win this battle?
1. _______________________ for them.
2. Take them to _______________________ where they can hear Jesus’ voice.
3. _______________________ about it.

The battle ____________________________________.

1. You can’t win this battle _________________________________.

We are made right with God by placing our faith in Jesus Christ. And this is true for everyone who believes, no matter who we are. (Romans 3:22, NLT)

2. This battle is __________________________________________.

For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard. Yet God, in his grace, freely makes us right in his sight. He did this through Christ Jesus when he freed us from the penalty for our sins. (Romans 3:23–24, NLT)

3. Keep _______________________________________ with God.

This is the message we heard from Jesus and now declare to you: God is light, and there is no darkness in him at all. So we are lying if we say we have fellowship with God but go on living in spiritual darkness; we are not practicing the truth. (1 John 1:5–6, NLT)

But if we are living in the light, as God is in the light, then we have fellowship with each other, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, cleanses us from all sin. (1 John 1:7, NLT)

If we claim we have no sin, we are only fooling ourselves and not living in the truth. But if we ______________________________
to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness. (1 John 1:8–9, NLT)

The battle for _______________________________________.

1. God says you are ________________________________.

Even before he made the world, God … chose us in Christ… to be holy and without fault in his eyes.

God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ.

For we are God’s __________________________.
He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. (Ephesians 2:10, NLT)

2. God says you are __________________________.

He is so rich in kindness and grace that he purchased our freedom with the blood of his Son... (Ephesians 2:7, NLT)

 

3. God says you are ___________________________.

God loved us and chose us in Christ…. (Ephesians 1:4, NLT)

He has showered his kindness on us, along with all wisdom and understanding. (Ephesians 1:8, NLT)

4. God says you are ____________________________.

He is so rich in kindness and grace that he purchased our freedom with the blood of his Son and forgave our sins. (Ephesians 1:7, NLT)

God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes. (Ephesians 1:4, NLT)

The battles of ______________________.

Teach your kids to stand on ___________________________ of God.

For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength. (Philippians 4:13, NLT)

 

How and When to do all this?

the early years… _______________________ yourself
start to _________________ your kids

the middle years… _______________________ it
don’t stop ______________________

young adult and later… ____________________ them

 

Digging Deeper
A deeper study for individuals and small groups

Read John 1:12; 1 Corinthians 1:30; 2 Corinthians 5:17; Ephesians 1:4; 2 Corinthians 12:9; Ephesians 2:10; 1 Thessalonians 1:4.

What do these Scriptures say about WHO you are as a follower of Jesus Christ?
- - -
- - -
- - -
- - -

What holds you back from wholeheartedly believing these truths?

Think of specific strongholds or issues you may be facing.
You may be saying, “I am a child of God, BUT…”

How does this affect your choices?

Read Proverbs 28:26; Romans 12:3; Romans 12:16; 1 Corinthians 15:10; Philippians 2:13.

What do these verses teach us about how we should view ourselves? How does this affect our choices?

Read Isaiah 41:10; 54:17; Zeph. 3:17; Philippians 4:13; Rom 8:28.

With each of these scriptures, finish the sentence:

I am a child of God, THEREFORE …..

Share an area where you struggle to accept your identity in Christ and take time to pray for each other (or on your own) about these areas.

Pray God’s truth over your life in each area.

 

 

 

Will You Be There For Me?  Questions Kids Won’t Ask

Will You Be There For Me? Questions Kids Won’t Ask

February 24, 2020

Will you be there for me - Outline
Questions Kids Won’t Ask Series.  February 16, 2020
John 15:15; 1 John 4:7-9

Three tensions in a parent’s life.
Matters that need your ________________________.
Your family and relationship ________________________.
Personal time for _________________________________.

____________________________ faced this struggle too.

In the midst of it all some _______________________________
___________________________get missed.

Every individual has their own ___________________of love.

Jesus intentionally used ___________________________
____________________ of showing love with different people.

Jesus Example of Love

Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.

Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.
This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. (1 John 4:7-9, NIV)

I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master's business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. (John 15:15, NIV)

He _________________________________ people.

He blessed the little children. Mark 10:13-16
He healed the little girl with a touch. Mark 5: 40-42
He healed Peter’s mother-in-law with a touch. Mark 1:30,31

He used _____________________________________ with people.

He affirmed Bartimeus’ faith.
He healed him by speaking words. Luke 18:35-43
He held a long conversation with the woman at the well. John 4:5-42

He _________________________________ with people.

He spent time with the woman at the well. John 4:52
He spent a day at Zachaeus’ house. Luke 19:1-10

He gave ________________________ to people.

Wedding at Cana. Jesus gave the best wine. John 2:1-11
Jesus feeds 5000 people. John 6:5-13
Jesus promises the gift of the Holy Spirit. John 14:16

Jesus life was an act of ____________________________.

For the Son of Man did not come to serve, but to be served and give his life as a ransom for many. (Mark 10:45, NIV)

The Five Love Languages

1. _______________________ of Affirmation

Genuine words of encouragement
Simple statements like:

 

2. Physical _________________________

May include:

 

3. Extended __________________________

____________________ and _____________________ time

 

 

4. Giving or Receiving ____________________________

May include:

 

 

Acts of _________________________________

Simple actions like:

 

Practical Application Ideas

1. Figure out ____________________love language.
2. Find out your ______________________________love languages.
3. Ask: What things could I do that would _________________
_________________to you?
4. Create family activities that ____________________________
love languages.

 

Digging Deeper
A study for individuals and small groups

Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?

Share a time you planned something special for your family and it totally failed.
What went wrong?
What did your family express to you about it?

Describe the times you feel most loved by your spouse / parents?
What might that indicate about your love language?

Read Ephesians 5:25-30.
What kind of love did Christ model for us?
Why is real love rooted in sacrifice and service to another?

Why won’t it work to love the members of your family in your language, not theirs?

If you don’t know your love language, do that now.
(Visit 5lovelanguages.com to take a quick love language survey.)

Were you surprised to find out what your languages were? Explain.

What are some practical things you can do to start speaking the language of your spouse / children?
Make a list.

Do you think it will be challenging for you to do this? Explain.

How will understanding the love languages improve your family relationships?

Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?

 

Do You Love Me?  Questions Kids Won’t Ask Series

Do You Love Me? Questions Kids Won’t Ask Series

February 11, 2020

Do You Love Me? - Outline
Questions Kids Won’t Ask
February 9, 2019

Parenting is a huge ________________________________.

Parenting is a huge ________________________________.

Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him.

Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior’s hands. How joyful is the man whose quiver is full of them! (Psalm 127:3–5a, NLT)

 

How do you reach your child’s heart?

1. Your kids will feel loved when you give them _________________.

Then Absalom sent for Joab to ask him to intercede for him, but Joab refused to come. Absalom sent for him a second time, but again Joab refused to come. (2 Samuel 14:29, NLT)

So Absalom said to his servants, “Go and set fire to Joab’s barley field, the field next to mine.” So they set his field on fire, as Absalom had commanded. (2 Samuel 14:30, NLT)

_________________________ attention is still attention.

Your kids don’t need a _______________________ parent but they do need a _________________________ parent.

 

2. Your kids will feel loved when you give them _______________.

And I will forgive their wickedness, and I will never again remember their sins.” (Hebrews 8:12, NLT)

LORD, if you kept a record of our sins, who, O Lord, could ever survive? (Psalm 130:3, NLT)

But you offer forgiveness, that we might learn to fear you. (Psalm 130:4, NLT)

 

The Bible defines love in this way.

Love is ________________ and ___________________.
Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.
It does not demand its own way.
It is not ______________________________,
and it keeps _________________________ of being wronged.
(1 Corinthians 13:4–5, NLT)

 

3. Your kids will feel loved when you show them ________________
________________________.

Covenantal love is the kind of love that ___________________ for us.

I am slow to anger and filled with unfailing love and faithfulness. I lavish unfailing love to a thousand generations. I forgive iniquity, rebellion, and sin. (Exodus 34:6b–7a, NLT)

Covenantal love _______________ and _______________________.

May he reign under God’s protection forever. May your unfailing love and faithfulness watch over him. (Psalm 61:7, NLT)

 

Covenantal love is _______________________despite
________________________________.

This is a trustworthy saying: If we die with him, we will also live with him. If we endure hardship, we will reign with him. If we deny him, he will deny us. If we are unfaithful, he remains faithful, for he cannot deny who he is. (2 Timothy 2:11–13, NLT)

Covenantal love is a love that never __________________________.

The faithful love of the Lord never ends! His mercies never cease. Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning. (Lamentations 3:22–23, NLT)

 

How can you communicate love to your kids?

Protect them.
Watch over them.
Be faithful when they are faithless.
Never give up on them.

Encourage __________________ over ________________________.

 

Digging Deeper
A deeper study for individuals and small groups

Describe a time when you felt you really blew it as a parent.*
How did you feel at that time? How did you get through it?
*If you are not a parent think about another relationship that you have in life.

Read 1 Corinthians 13, particularly focus on v. 4-8.
What stands out to you about these descriptions of love?
Is there anything that surprises you? If so, why?

Read these verses about the kind of love that God shows:
John 3:16, 1 John 3:1, Jeremiah 31:3, 1 John 4:8-11.

How do these verses compare with 1 Corinthians 13?

Compare our love for God with his love to us.
Explain the relationship between our love for other people and God’s love for us.

Paul wanted to teach the Christians in Corinth that they should not follow their emotions (See 1 Corinthians 10:6-11).

Discuss how, in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, Paul describes love as a good attitude that causes right behaviour, and not as an emotion.

Discuss how each phrase in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 describes the nature of God. For example, explain how patient God is (see 2 Peter 3:9).

Is there one area in this list of the qualities of love where you are really strong? What is it?

Is there one area in this list of the qualities of love where you are really weak? What is it?

What could you do this week to grow in this one area?

 

What Are The Boundaries?  Questions Kids Won’t Ask Series

What Are The Boundaries? Questions Kids Won’t Ask Series

February 3, 2020

What are the Boundaries? Outline
Questions Kids Won’t Ask
February 2, 2020

Every child has two primary needs: ____________and____________.

The art of parenting is to show over the top _____________________
__________while at the same time establishing __________________.

Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. “Honor your father and mother.” This is the first commandment with a promise: If you honor your father and mother, “things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth.” (Ephesians 6:1–3, NLT)

One of our specific ____________________________is to teach our children how to ____________________.

…____________________ signs
…_________________________ in the classroom
…___________________ of the country
…above all…___________________.

Our children want to know where _______________________
_________________________are.

Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it. (Proverbs 22:6, NLT)

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far away. (Proverbs 22:15, NIV)

Now his father, King David, had never disciplined him at any time, even by asking, “Why are you doing that?” Adonijah had been born next after Absalom, and he was very handsome. (1 Kings 1:6, NLT)

So how do you begin to discipline your kids?

Five thoughts about setting boundaries and discipline.

1. ________________ the ___________________that you want to see.

Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity. (1 Timothy 4:12b, NLT)

2. Educate yourself on the ______________of ___________________
behavior.

…is your child _____________________________?
…or are they just_________________________________?
…or do they need to____________________________________?

 

3. Determine what the boundaries are.

Rules should be ______________________.
Rules should be ______________________.
Rules should be ______________________.

 

4. Discipline out of __________________________.

And have you forgotten the encouraging words God spoke to you as his children? He said, “My child, don’t make light of the LORD’s discipline, and don’t give up when he corrects you. For the LORD disciplines those he loves, and he punishes each one he accepts as his child.” (Hebrews 12:5–6, NLT)

 

No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way. (Hebrews 12:11, NLT)

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4, NLT)

 

Three things to consider before you discipline.

a. Take a _______________________________________instead of forward.

b. Have a _______________________________________that calms you down in the moment.

c. Ask yourself, what does ____________________________right now?

 

4. _____________________________________ in what you want them to do not just what _________________________________.

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4, NLT)

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. (Proverbs 4:23, NLT)

If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. (James 1:5, NLT)

 

Digging Deeper
Discussion questions for individuals and small groups.

Read Ephesians 6:1-9.
How is the first part of chapter 6 related to the last part of chapter five?
What is the authority structure outlined here?

What does it mean to obey your parents in the Lord?
What is the difference between obedience and honor?

How long is it necessary for kids to obey their parents?

What does it mean first command with a promise?
What is the promise attached?
Does this mean every obedient child will live longer than every disobedient child? If not, what does it mean?
Why might an obedient child live longer than a disobedient one?

Some parents might say, “I want my child to obey me, but they just won’t.” What would you tell them?

What is a father’s responsibility?
How might some fathers provoke their children to anger?
Why do you think the discipline and instruction responsibility is directed towards fathers instead of mothers?
What does this tell us?

Take time to pray for your children (of all ages) and grandchildren, or the children of families in your small group.
Share any relevant prayer requests first, then take time to pray the Lord’s blessing into your children’s lives. If you don’t have kids yet, pray for nieces and nephews and families in our church.

Take time to pray for the parents in your group and in our church.
Share any relevant prayer requests and pray for each other as parents. If none of you are parents yet, take time to simply share and pray together

Lean Into The Better Way:  Gaining Wisdom Series

Lean Into The Better Way: Gaining Wisdom Series

January 29, 2020

Lean into the Better Way - Outline
Gaining Wisdom
January 26, 2020

 

The power of listening.

1. Listening brings __________________________.

but whoever listens to me will live in safety and be at ease, without fear of harm.” (Proverbs 1:33, NIV)

2. Listening brings __________________.

“And so, my children, listen to me, for all who follow my ways are joyful. Listen to my instruction and be wise. (Proverbs 8:32, NLT)

3. Listening brings __________________________.

Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise. (Proverbs 19:20, NIV)

The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice. (Proverbs 12:15, NIV)

 

The “Better Way”.

There is a difference between ______________________wisdom and ______________________ wisdom.

1. The better way of _________________ and ___________________.

Better to be patient than powerful; better to have self-control than to conquer a city. (Proverbs 16:32, NLT)

Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city. (Proverbs 16:32, NIV)

A warrior has learned to conquer _____________________.
A patient person has learned to conquer ____________________.

2. The better way of ________________________.

Don’t demand an audience with the king or push for a place among the great. It’s better to wait for an invitation to the head table than to be sent away in public disgrace. (Proverbs 25:6–7a, NLT)

Better to ______________________________ notice you than to _______________________________ notice you.

 

3. The better way of ___________________________.

A bowl of vegetables with someone you love is better than steak with someone you hate. (Proverbs 15:17, NLT)

You can be _________________________________in some areas of your life but if you have a couple of people ________________ ____________ then you are rich.

Better a dry crust eaten in peace than a house filled with feasting—and conflict. (Proverbs 17:1, NLT)

 

Digging Deeper
A deeper study for individuals and small groups

Read Proverbs 3:13-14.
What two things does Solomon contrast in these verses?
What does he say about them?
Why is wisdom better the better way?
Can you think of a story from your life that illustrates this?
Share it with the group.

Read Proverbs 12:9; 16:19; 15:7.
What two qualities do these verses contrast?
Think about a time in your life when humility was difficult and didn’t seem to create a benefit for you. How did you respond at the time?
When you look back on your life can you see how humility was a benefit to you?
If you could re-word these into one proverb of your own, what would you say? How would you word it?

Read Proverbs 15:16; 17:1; 8:16.
What is being contrasted here?
What is the value in finding contentment?
Can you think of a time in your life where you were discontent, and it led to trouble?
Can you think of a time when you were content, and it led to something good?

Read Proverbs 19:1; 19:22; 22:1; 28:6.
These verses all talk about integrity or honesty in some way.
What four things is integrity / honesty contrasted with in these verses?
Think about some possible ways you can apply these verses into your life? Is there a situation you are facing right now where these ideas might apply?

Guard Your Heart:  Gaining Wisdom Series

Guard Your Heart: Gaining Wisdom Series

January 20, 2020

Guard Your Heart - Outline
Gaining Wisdom
January 19, 2020

Listen Up!

My child, pay attention to what I say. Listen carefully to my words. Don’t lose sight of them. Let them penetrate deep into your heart, for they bring life to those who find them, and healing to their whole body. (Proverbs 4:20–22, NLT)

Why guard your heart?

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. (Proverbs 4:23, NLT)

How does the heart determine the course of your life?

The heart is like a__________________. There is an ____________
and an ____________________.

How do I guard my heart?

1. Be careful what you take into your life.
Avoid all ____________________________________; stay away from corrupt speech. (Proverbs 4:24, NLT)
“The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is? (Jeremiah 17:9, NLT)

2. Fix your eyes on _____________________________.
Look straight ahead, and fix your eyes on what lies before you. (Proverbs 4:25, NLT)
The goal of _______________________, your friend and Lord.
The goal of ____________________ _____________________.
3. Decide ___________________________what path you will take.
Mark out a _________________ ______________for your feet; stay on the safe path. (Proverbs 4:26, NLT)

4. Don’t get ___________________________.
Don’t get sidetracked; keep your ____________________ from following _____________________ . (Proverbs 4:27, NLT)

It’s not the big events; it’s the little daily choices you make that fix your character and your destiny. – Timothy Keller

 

Digging Deeper
A deeper study for individuals and groups

How have you seen God at work in their life this week.

Read Proverbs 4:10-19.
The author describes a path of wisdom and a path of wickedness.
How is the path of wickedness described?

In verse 16 the wicked are described as trying to make others stumble. Can you think of some real life examples in your own life of this path toward darkness? Are there people you would like to see fail or that you would like to get even with etc.

In verse 19 we see that the wicked path is a deep darkness.
They don’t know what makes them stumble (out of touch with reality).

This will be hard- but can you see each other’s blind spots?
Can you see something that is causing your brother or sister in Christ to stumble that maybe they cannot see? What do you do in those times?

Read Proverbs 4:20-27.
Why do we need to guard our hearts?
*Note: The heart is the center of being, the desires, the imaginations.

Why is it that only God can satisfy our hearts?
Why does pursuing good things like image, romance, children, work at the center of our hearts only lead to disappointment?

Truth alone cannot change a heart. It takes a new reality and a new vision. The new reality is that in Christ you are changed! The new vision is one of hope and joy in the presence of Christ.

How can these two things (new reality and new vision) bring about change in your heart and thus your choices and character?

Where in your life do you need to trust your new reality and gain a new vision for the future?

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