The Hillcrest Church Podcast

What Are The Boundaries? Questions Kids Won’t Ask Series

February 3, 2020

What are the Boundaries? Outline
Questions Kids Won’t Ask
February 2, 2020

Every child has two primary needs: ____________and____________.

The art of parenting is to show over the top _____________________
__________while at the same time establishing __________________.

Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. “Honor your father and mother.” This is the first commandment with a promise: If you honor your father and mother, “things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth.” (Ephesians 6:1–3, NLT)

One of our specific ____________________________is to teach our children how to ____________________.

…____________________ signs
…_________________________ in the classroom
…___________________ of the country
…above all…___________________.

Our children want to know where _______________________

Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it. (Proverbs 22:6, NLT)

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far away. (Proverbs 22:15, NIV)

Now his father, King David, had never disciplined him at any time, even by asking, “Why are you doing that?” Adonijah had been born next after Absalom, and he was very handsome. (1 Kings 1:6, NLT)

So how do you begin to discipline your kids?

Five thoughts about setting boundaries and discipline.

1. ________________ the ___________________that you want to see.

Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity. (1 Timothy 4:12b, NLT)

2. Educate yourself on the ______________of ___________________

…is your child _____________________________?
…or are they just_________________________________?
…or do they need to____________________________________?


3. Determine what the boundaries are.

Rules should be ______________________.
Rules should be ______________________.
Rules should be ______________________.


4. Discipline out of __________________________.

And have you forgotten the encouraging words God spoke to you as his children? He said, “My child, don’t make light of the LORD’s discipline, and don’t give up when he corrects you. For the LORD disciplines those he loves, and he punishes each one he accepts as his child.” (Hebrews 12:5–6, NLT)


No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way. (Hebrews 12:11, NLT)

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4, NLT)


Three things to consider before you discipline.

a. Take a _______________________________________instead of forward.

b. Have a _______________________________________that calms you down in the moment.

c. Ask yourself, what does ____________________________right now?


4. _____________________________________ in what you want them to do not just what _________________________________.

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4, NLT)

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. (Proverbs 4:23, NLT)

If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. (James 1:5, NLT)


Digging Deeper
Discussion questions for individuals and small groups.

Read Ephesians 6:1-9.
How is the first part of chapter 6 related to the last part of chapter five?
What is the authority structure outlined here?

What does it mean to obey your parents in the Lord?
What is the difference between obedience and honor?

How long is it necessary for kids to obey their parents?

What does it mean first command with a promise?
What is the promise attached?
Does this mean every obedient child will live longer than every disobedient child? If not, what does it mean?
Why might an obedient child live longer than a disobedient one?

Some parents might say, “I want my child to obey me, but they just won’t.” What would you tell them?

What is a father’s responsibility?
How might some fathers provoke their children to anger?
Why do you think the discipline and instruction responsibility is directed towards fathers instead of mothers?
What does this tell us?

Take time to pray for your children (of all ages) and grandchildren, or the children of families in your small group.
Share any relevant prayer requests first, then take time to pray the Lord’s blessing into your children’s lives. If you don’t have kids yet, pray for nieces and nephews and families in our church.

Take time to pray for the parents in your group and in our church.
Share any relevant prayer requests and pray for each other as parents. If none of you are parents yet, take time to simply share and pray together

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