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Focus Your Desires: Gaining Wisdom Series

January 14, 2020

Focus Your Desires - Outline

Gaining Wisdom

January 12, 2020


 What do you want for your life?

 So God replied, “Because you have asked for wisdom in governing my people with justice and have not asked for a long life or wealth or the death of your enemies—I will give you what you asked for! I will give you a wise and understanding heart such as no one else has had or ever will have! (1 Kings 3:11–12, NLT)


 Sometimes it feels like we are on a quest to find something we have lost yet we don’t know how to search for it.


And yet Proverbs tells us that there is no end to that kind of searching…

 Just as Death and Destruction are never satisfied, so human desire is never satisfied. (Proverbs 27:20, NLT)

Solomon is saying, the deepest longings that you have in your life cannot be met by anything in this world.


No person, place, or relationship can meet your deepest desires.

 For wisdom is far more valuable than rubies. Nothing you desire can compare with it. (Proverbs 8:11, NLT)


There is a moral component to our desires.

 The fears of the wicked will be fulfilled; the hopes of the godly will be granted. (Proverbs 10:24, NLT)


Our desires can trap us.

 The righteousness of the upright delivers them, but the unfaithful are trapped by evil desires. (Proverbs 11:6, NIV)


There are three common desires that can trap us.

 First, is the desire for approval.

 Fearing people is a dangerous trap, but trusting the Lord means safety. (Proverbs 29:25, NLT)


 How do I know if this is an area of struggle for me?

  1.  You are overly sensitive to criticism.
  2.  You are willing to compromise your values.
  3.  You worry what others think.
  4.  You can’t say no.


For some of us, people have become too big and God has become too small.

 Fearing people is a dangerous trap, but trusting the Lord means safety. (Proverbs 29:25, NLT)


Paul said,

Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant. (Galatians 1:10, NLT)


Second, there is the desire for pleasure in its various forms.

 Those who love pleasure become poor; those who love wine and luxury will never be rich. (Proverbs 21:17, NLT)


Third, there is the desire for control.

 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. (Proverbs 3:5–6, NIV)


Is there something in your life that you are struggling to control right now?

 Let God control what He can control.


What do you want for your life?


Digging Deeper

Further study for individuals and small groups


When you were a kid, you probably had dreams about your future. What is the first dream or wish or hope that you remember having?


Read Proverbs 27:20.

Give some examples of situations where desire begins and it could possibly never be satisfied.


Read Proverbs 10:24.

Is having desires a negative thing?

How do our desires have a moral component?


Read Proverbs 11:6.

Give examples in which unfaithfulness may cause a person to be ensnared by their own lusts –11:5,6.

How does righteousness deliver people from these problems?


Read Proverbs 8:11.

What does this have to say about the best source of our desires?

How does wisdom help to focus our desires?

Think of some real-life examples.


Read Proverbs 29:25.

How is fearing the opinions of people a trap?

Is there any way in which concern for the opinions of others might be beneficial? Is there a balance here?


Read Proverbs 21:17.

Describe how you think the desire for pleasure ultimately leads people into poverty. Is it true all the time? Is there a balance to this statement?


How does focusing our desires lead to God’s best in our life?

Is there one desire you have in your life that you have been thinking about changing or controlling better or perhaps removing from your life?

What is one thing you can do this week that would help you toward that goal?

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